Navigating a Relationship with a Narcissistic Partner

Being and staying in a relationship with a person who has narcissism can be extremely difficult and emotionally draining. It’s vital that you maintain an understanding of what narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is, how it can affect relationships, and how to prioritize your mental well-being to remain safe and happy.

Following are some strategies you can use to help manage challenging situations in relationships with a narcissistic partner, especially when dealing with elements of borderline personality disorder as well.

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

This disorder involves consistent thought patterns of grandiosity and an ongoing need for a person to feel admiration. The person will also feel a consistent lack of empathy for other people and will not do anything for anyone else unless they reap benefit from it.

Narcissistic people may also display manipulative and controlling behavior to uphold their self-image and get their desired admiration. Being in a relationship with someone with NPD can make you feel like you have to walk on eggshells and tread carefully to avoid setting off unpredictable responses, increasing your own stress.

Signs of Narcissism

What are some of the characteristics of someone who may have narcissistic personality disorder?

1. Controlling Behavior: A narcissistic partner often seeks to control every aspect of the relationship. This can range from dictating how you spend your time to controlling your social interactions. They may isolate you from friends and family to ensure their dominance.
2. Manipulation: Narcissistic individuals are skilled manipulators. They may use guilt, shame, or flattery to bend you to their will. Their tactics can be subtle or overt, making it hard to recognize you’re being manipulated.
3. Gaslighting: Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the narcissistic partner makes you doubt your perceptions, memories, and sanity. They might deny events, twist the truth, or blame you for things you didn’t do, leaving you confused and anxious.

Strategies for Coping in a Relationship with Someone with NPD

Educate Yourself: One of the best ways to cope and thrive in a relationship with someone with NPD is to educate yourself. Understanding narcissistic personality disorder and its characteristics can help you recognize patterns in your partner’s behavior and know how to act accordingly in your best interest. Knowledge can empower you with a sense of validation and control that is vital in your relationship.

Set and Maintain Boundaries: Setting boundaries is also key. Establishing clear boundaries and maintaining them includes being firm about what you will and will not tolerate with your partner. Communicate these boundaries clearly, and don’t give in, even when your partner tries to push back.

Surround Yourself with Support: Your family members, friends, co-workers, schoolmates, therapists, community members, and others who surround you make up your support network. Those who you depend on for emotional validation, practical advice, and safe spaces are invaluable and can help you navigate your relationship and express your feelings.

Don’t Forget Self-Care: Always prioritize your own physical and mental health. Participate in activities that make you happy, relax you, and keep you engaged with others. Keep up with activities that reduce stress and improve your overall well-being.

Keep It Real: You may find it helpful to keep a journal of your feelings and events as they take place. When gaslighting tactics can make people question their sanity, writing things down can help people keep a sense of proportion and reality.

Reach Out for Support with Wiser Center

If your partner’s actions are affecting your mental well-being, it’s vital that you consider reaching out to us at Wiser Center for support. Therapy can equip you with valuable coping strategies to manage the emotional challenges and guide you through your relationship with someone with NPD.

Remember: you have the strength to navigate a relationship with a narcissistic partner! By recognizing the signs of controlling and manipulative behaviors and seeking support, you can not only protect your well-being but improve it, too. Contact us today to prioritize yourself and look toward a healthy, happy future.